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I write occasional emails to share what I’m thinking, learning, and doing. It’s all related to the idea of breaking free from the “default plan” in life.

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How to solve shortages, sell $3B in a few hours, and have your most productive day ever

I’m back to business after a couple of weeks off. 🌴🌞

No essay this week, but I did write a twitter thread on how to have your most productive day ever:

I’ve also started recording new Never Normal podcast episodes (coming soon – stay tuned!)

In the meantime, I’m excited to share a few of the things I’ve been reading, listening to, and learning lately.

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Being “smart” (this hit way too close to home for me)

Last week I wrote about rethinking education to take advantage of technology and teach for mastery.

I saw this tweet a few weeks ago, and it’s been on my mind ever since:

It’s tempting to laugh this off and make a joke about people who are a little too obsessed with winning trivia night at the local pub.

Or to dismiss the insight altogether and say, “of course being smart isn’t important as an adult. Besides, who cares what anyone else thinks about you?”

But if you happen to catch me in a brutally honest and self-reflective mood, then I would say, this cuts deep.

I’m one of those people who was praised often as a kid for being smart. <Takes a hit of dopamine>. Being praised feels good, so we go off looking for more opportunities to prove how smart we are. <Takes another hit of dopamine>. It creates a positive feedback loop.

So what’s the problem?

Well for one thing, this teaches us to externalize approval. At school, we hand in the test then eagerly await our score. Maybe we’ll even earn a gold star!

But real life doesn’t work that way.

Once you finish school, it becomes a lot harder to prove your smartness.

Promotions at most jobs are more about politicking and putting on a performance than about brain power (much to the chagrin of introverted engineers and programmers everywhere).

Even in mathematics and the sciences, careers that most rely on and reward intellectual ability, there are relatively few opportunities for proving your brilliance.

Maybe you publish a great paper once every few years? Best case scenario, you win a Nobel prize, once in your life?

Opportunities for praise aside, it’s cute when my 16-month old shows off her latest abilities (and then claps for herself). But at 37 years old?

I suspect that if you dig down deep, under all of the “put a dent in the universe” talk, there are a lot of people (and I’m definitely speaking from personal experience here) whose real goal is to, “show the world how clever I am, so I can earn more praise and adulation.”

If you go really, really, deep even beyond that, you’d probably find the most basic human desire of all: to be loved. Perhaps somewhere along the way, we conflated the idea of being worthy of love with being praised for our intelligence.

For me personally, that’s where my spiritual beliefs and having a loving family come in. But even just remembering that that’s where I should be looking for love takes some work. It’s a practice.

You could argue a counter-point that, among all the human desires, ‘wanting to be seen as smart’ is hardly the most destructive. Especially if it leads to quantum mechanics and spaceships and symphonies.

But it can also lead to a dark place. Spending your whole life trying to fill a void by achieving things to earn more praise, only to find that it’s never enough.

The Wrong Question?

All of this begs another question: If we can stop worrying about trying to prove how smart we are, then how should we orient our efforts instead?

I’m reminded of a story about management guru Peter Drucker and some advice he offered a colleague:

If Peter were around to give me a thwacky pep talk, I think he’d say something like this:

It seems to me you spend a lot of time worrying about proving how smart you are. You already know you’re smart enough.

And you seem to spend a lot of energy gathering more knowledge and coming up with new ideas.

The question is: how can you use all of your abilities and knowledge and ideas to create value for others!

Of course, that last question isn’t just for me. It’s something we must all contend with — How do I live up to my full potential? What does that even look like?

This is what I’m working on now…

Over the past few weeks I’ve been enjoying leading the Quality Questions community through the process of finding their superpowers.

We’ve been working on questions like:

What is fun for you but feels like work for other people?
​How can you stack your skills together to form uncommon combinations?

I’ve been collecting questions, exercises, and tools like these for years, but this is the first time I’ve shared them with a group. It’s exciting!

Identifying your strengths and learning about yourself are worthwhile exercises on their own. But my hope is that everyone in the group will use that knowledge both to improve their lives (by spending more time on activities that bring joy), and to maximize their contributions to the world.

That’s all for this week. More soon…

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Rethinking Education

Last week I shared a few weird theories and a study about seemingly sentient plants.

Thinking through theories and reading scientific studies and journal articles makes me I wish I’d studied more math and science in school.

My grades were okay. I passed all the classes that were required to graduate. And I still remember a decent amount of what I learned.

So why is it that now when I try looking into the more advanced, theoretical topics, I find myself lacking the fundamentals to make sense of it all?

An equation like the one below might as well be ancient Egyptian hieroglyphics, as far as my brain can tell:

This TED Talk on Teaching for Mastery by Sal Khan (founder of Khan Academy) explains one of the reasons why:

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Binging on Weird Theories, AI, and Bach

Do you binge on writers and thinkers — discover someone then proceed to devour all of their content?

Recently I’ve been enjoying Chris Williamson’s work. The latest issue of his weekly newsletter, 3 Minute Mondays, is packed with a lifetime’s worth of wisdom.

→ You are not your thoughts.

→ You are the sky, everything else is just the weather.

→ Your weirdness is your competitive advantage. No one can beat you at being you.


I’m also a huge fan of Chris’ podcast, Modern Wisdom.

I just finished listening to episode 379 with Rupert Sheldrake.

Rupert Sheldrake PhD is a biologist and author best known for his hypothesis of Morphic Resonance.

Morphic Resonance is the idea of mysterious telepathy-type connections between organisms and of collective memories within species.

I’d never heard of Dr. Sheldrake or Morphic Resonance before listening to this episode. The basic idea of his theory, as I understand it, is as follows:

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Web 3: Overhyped or overlooked opportunity?

In addition to writing about to breaking free from the “default life plan”, I also like sharing what I’m thinking, learning, and working on…

Last week I sent my latest long-form essay on What’s Worth Owning. It’s an open-ended piece; I left off talking about blockchains and NFTs.

This week there’s been some heated debate on twitter about the value of NFTs, and whether they even constitute “ownership” at all.

I couldn’t resist weighing in myself here, here, and here:

Ultimately, I think most people are over-focused on NFT art projects and missing the bigger picture (and opportunity).

The internet is evolving.

Allow me to explain…

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What’s worth owning?

My dad has a golden rule, he says: The man with the gold makes the rules.

When I was a little kid, he used to take me for walks along the perimeter of our yard.  We’d walk along all four sides and corners, as if we were inspecting the fence. And occasionally we would pause to put a fence post back in place or pick up a piece of trash, but that was never the point.

My dad wanted us to experience, viscerally, what the Montgomery County Land Records Department must’ve had documented in a dusty old book of deeds and plats somewhere — that everything within this boundary was our property and, for reasons I didn’t fully understand as a six-year old, that was important.

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From Belarus to Finding Meaning, Pro Wrestling, and Web3

I’m experimenting with a different format this week and sharing a few of the things I’ve been reading, watching, listening to, and learning.

Reading

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Could watching a movie change your life? Here are three…

Follow the White Rabbit

I just learned a few days ago that there’s a fourth movie in the Matrix series, “The Matrix Resurrections” coming soon. I watched the somewhat interactive teaser trailer yesterday, and the official trailer is supposed to drop today.

Are you excited?

The original movie, The Matrix, came out the year I turned 16. It’s hard to overstate how much of an impact that movie had on me, my friends, and other people (especially boys) my age.

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My Biggest Weakness and What I Learned from Pablo Picasso in Barcelona

Have you ever interviewed for a job and been asked “What’s your biggest weakness?”

Most people hate this question, because it puts them on the spot, but knowing your strengths and weaknesses is a super power in life.

Do you know yours? (my answer is below)

There are lots of books you can read and coaches you can hire to help you discover your strengths and weaknesses…

But here’s another approach you can try right now:

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Who are the mentors I can model?

Over the last few weeks I’ve shared some thoughts on the New American Dream, Building a Personal Monopoly, and What I’m Working On.

Anytime you’re trying to accomplish an ambitious goal, especially one that’s new and different from anything you’ve done before, it’s worth asking:

Who are the mentors I can model?

The goal is not to copy anyone else, but to learn from them.

In other words, Who’s already done the thing I want to do? Who can I look to for inspiration, or ask for advice?

In Polywork, Personal Brands, and Jobs of the Future, I mentioned Ali Abdaal as my go to example of someone who has built a strong personal brand and a thriving business by sharing his ideas and creative work online.

Let’s look at a few more and see what we can learn from them:

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Working in Public and What I’m Working On

In the last email I wrote that I believe the “New American Dream” is getting paid for being yourself — and that the way to do this as a creator working online is to build a Personal Monopoly.

“A Personal Monopoly is the unique intersection of your knowledge, personality, and skills that nobody else can compete with.”

David Perell

This is something that I’m actively in the process of discovering for myself.